In this helpguide.org article, Caregiver Stress and Burnout, Tips for Recharging and Finding Balance caregivers are encouraged to focus on looking for the silver-lining in the sometimes unbearable task of caregiving, instead of asking Why?!
Dealing with caregiver stress & burnout tip 3: Practice acceptance
When faced with the unfairness of a loved one’s illness or the burden of caregiving, there’s often a need to make sense of the situation and ask “Why?” But you can spend a tremendous amount of energy dwelling on things you can’t change and for which there are no clear answers. And at the end of the day, you won’t feel any better.
- Try to avoid the emotional trap of feeling sorry for yourself or searching for someone to blame. Focus instead on accepting the situation and looking for ways it can help you grown as a person. As the saying goes, “What doesn’t kill us makes us stronger.”
- Focus on the things you can control. You can’t wish your mother’s cancer away or force your brother to help out more. Rather than stressing out over things you can’t control, focus on the way you choose to react to problems.
- Find the silver lining. Think about the ways caregiving has made you stronger or how it’s brought you closer to person you’re taking care of or to other family members. Think about how caregiving allows you to give back and show your love.
- Share your feelings. Expressing what you’re going through can be very cathartic, even if there’s nothing you can do to alter the situation. Talk to a friend or therapist about what you’re going through as a family caregiver.
- Avoid tunnel vision. Don’t let caregiving take over your whole life. It’s easier to accept a difficult situation when there are other areas of your life that are rewarding. Invest in things that give you meaning and purpose—whether it’s your family, church, a favorite hobby, or your career.
Joke Of The Day For Dementia Patient Caregivers
“A Florida officer pulled over eighty-six-year-old Mrs. Stuart because her hand signals were confusing.
“First you put your hand up, like you’re turning right, then you wave your hand up and down, then you turn left,” said the officer.
“I decided not to turn right,” she explained.
“Then why the up and down?” asked the officer.
“Officer,” she sniffed, “I was erasing!””
Joke quoted from www.caring.com Photo courtesy of homecareoftherockies.com